Who loves hanging out in their "sweatpants"... ?? Meeeee tooooo!! But ladies, there is a time and a place for these said "sweatpants" to be worn. Let's define sweatpants as:
I'm not talking about your $100 plus dollar Lulu pants that lift perfectly in the right areas and make you feel powerful wearing them. Esp with that tight, boobie enhancing Lulu top. Just so we are clear on that front... But for the defined sweatpants, let there be no confusion that just because we like wearing them, it definitely does not include wearing them all the time. Especially not to the grocery store, to pick up/drop off your child from school and most of all, not to greet your husband at the door after the long day each of you just had! Instead of rolling your eyes, hear me out for a second.
Research shows that people make a first impression within 7 seconds. Even if we tell ourselves we don't care what other people think, we do. We all do. So much so, that the way we dress actually has a direct correlation on how we carry ourselves in that moment. You know what I am talking about... when you spend that extra 10 minutes perfecting your makeup or putting together that outfit with killer accessories, or how about rockin' those new boots that finally arrived from your exhaustive online search? There is an extra spring in your step for sure that day and you feel amazing!.
I promise that you will be wearing a larger, more contagious smile when you feel put together. And to reiterate, this does not include your super soft, worn out vintage tee that matches your black Victoria's Secret drawstrings. This does not count just because it matches! :) I'm going to ask you to conduct an experiment. Every day for one week, set your alarm 20 or 30 minutes earlier. Before the craziness of the day sucks you in. This will be time for you. Time to select an outfit that makes you feel great about yourself. Not an outfit that used to make you feel great about yourself (more on that in another post), but an outfit that fits perfectly right now. It should feel good, and in turn, make you shine. Put on some makeup, get dressed and rock it all day. As you go about your day, notice how you feel. Notice how others respond to you and how you respond to them. Do this for a solid week, you will be amazed at how empowered you have become. When we are confident it shows! You will be more productive and have a general feeling of increased happiness. Who wouldn't want to have all of these positive things make up their day? And all from spending a little extra time being kind to numero uno! You are important, you deserve to feel good about yourself and oh, by the way... you are beautiful.
How do you think your husband will respond to this? Have you changed the way you dress since you have been married? How about since you have had kids? You may not want to hear this, but you know what? Your husband deserves to have his wife look and feel sexy folks! Yep, it's true. Your hubby didn't sign up for sweatpants wife, it is not a right of passage. He signed up for hot and sexy wedding day wife. Why withhold that from him? The most successful and fulfilled couples have passion in their marriages. You cannot tell me you look and feel one bit sexy in your ratty sweats. Give your husband a break too and change things up. Spark some interest! Wear that expensive push-up bra that sits in the back of your drawer, and put on some lipstick. A woman that feels desired feels sexy. And that is better for both of you! Are you pushing back a bit at this paragraph? Feeling a little too feminist to want to impress your husband? Stop. It. Let your guard down and just go for it. Make him feel powerful too. When his wife is sexy, that makes a man feel great! And besides, you woke up early, got yourself put together, smiled more and felt confident all day... the man you love most in this world should get to benefit from that too! Start picking out your outfits now, these next 7 days are going to be eye-opening!
XOXO, Andrea Kaye