Ask yourself WHY you want to lose weight/gain muscle. Be honest about it. You don't have to advertise it, this is for YOU. Then, examine your answer. Does it include adjectives related to being "perfect" or "skinny" or point to impressing someone else/making someone jealous? Does is talk about being judged and winning first place on a stage/being chosen above others? If any of these were the outcome, but did not include statements about making YOU better, we need to reframe your why.
Don't misunderstand, I'm not saying you shouldn't aspire to win that trophy, or look great in your skinny jeans... I am urging you to be sure the main focus is about improving YOURSELF and no one else. Because if you set a goal based on others, you are not as likely to succeed. And more importantly, the change won't last. The competition will end and you will fall back into your old habits/the wedding will come and go and you won't see that person you were wanting to impress/the vacation will come to an end and you won't be wearing that tiny bikini for another year... etc,etc.
When I am struggling with this, I always remind myself of this story. From a very young age I enjoyed performing and did it as often as I could, through college.. With it though, became a large responsibility and an immense amount of pressure to look a specific way. I went along with it at the time, I didn't know any better. On my rookie year in the NFL, I was "benched for weight." Let's keep in mind that I weighed a solid 10 pounds less than I do now and I was dancing all the time so I also had a large amount of muscle. Back then, what was sought after was a thin, lengthy body. My toned physique was not going to cut it in their eyes. I didn't know how to handle it, and I put my body through a series of very unhealthy events trying to change into something someone else wanted me to be. I barely ate, and when I did, I felt guilty. I ran bleachers in the summer in Arizona with sweats on and I was so emotionally messed up, but had no idea! I just kept focusing on losing the "weight" they wanted me to. While I was destructive to my body, my mind was being beaten up even worse. My confidence dropped and it took me a very long time to be logical about what was happening in the big picture. I was finally able to dance on the field and this "issue" was never discussed with the organization again. For me though, it has lasted a lifetime. I have been fortunate enough to refocus and use it as a teaching tool for myself and others. I look good for myself not my husband, not any organization, not for judges or social media, but for me. I understand that not everyone reaches this level of growth alone, which is why I love doing what I do!
You get the point! Motivation is a powerful tool to changing yourself, but the wrong motivation isn't healthy! And when it comes to diet and exercise, it causes a yo-yo type effect. This is not only bad for your emotional heath, but it physically can damage your metabolic process and other systems in the body. Our bodies amazing, and they will respond positively when we stop hurting them and nurture them. Focus on the whole package! Your mind and spirit as well as the physical. Put the emotional layer in front of the others and you will be amazed on how empowering this will be! I encourage you to enroll in our next Boot Camp Babes session, where we will work on creating lasting change and set you free. And oh, by the way, get you into those skinny jeans in the process! But not just for one night...To the point where we can burn your "fat" ones and never look back. Let's do this together ladies and inspire each other! XOXO, Andrea Kaye